We all naturally care about what others think of us and want to be liked and even passionately loved. The basics of having people like you are simple: be decent, be nice, and, importantly, considerate. While these are all true, there are a few things that can affect how others perceive you. Some of your habits may appear insignificant or perhaps silly, but it turned they truly count.
Popular TikToker, Raquel Olsson has decided to address this gap, sharing some bitter truth about the things that make most people less likable. In a series of now-viral TikTok clips, the ex-national TV newscaster listed five things most people do that harm their opportunities of making a direct connection with others while giving tips on how it can be fixed. You might be guilty too, read on!
Being one good way to inspire reflection on habits, Raquel listed things most people do that make them less likable.
#1 Oversharing Too Soon.
“People do this in an attempt to be authentic, honest, and to build a stronger bond. The key is timing. Disclosing personal things too soon can make someone feel uncomfortable because it’s almost like you’re emotionally dumping. It doesn’t feel earned and can come across as slightly unhinged. Instead, open up over time. That’s when it becomes effective.”
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#2 Toxic Positivity.
“Of course, we all know the benefits of a positive attitude. There is nothing wrong with having one. But sometimes supporting someone means validating what they’re going through and acknowledging that it’s tough. Otherwise, it’s easy to suppress, mask, or even make someone feel guilty for their negative experiences. Instead, reassuring someone that it’s okay not to be okay and asking them how you can help is more effective and authentic.”
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#3 Humble Bragging.
“A Harvard study showed that humblebragging is more annoying than boasting. Believe it or not, it still happens. We’ve just gotten extra good at it by now. Half of the social media is pretty much humble bragging. Showing off in the form of self-deprecation is transparent by now. Letting your accomplishments speak for themselves or your character reveal itself over time is a lot more convincing, impressive, and attractive. Or be direct about what you’re proud about. That’s also likable, in a different way.”
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#4 Unsolicited Advice.
“Coming from someone who gives advice all the time, I had to learn to tone it down. Obviously, the intention behind the advice is mostly genuine in trying to help people. But sometimes, it can come across as controlling or intrusive. Or it can be driven by an underlying desire to create a sense of self-worth by influencing the actions of others. A study found that people with a high tendency to seek power were more likely to give advice. So, I’ve learned to ask myself first, before I give my two cents to someone, whether or not that person is receptive in that place and time. Or I straight up ask them first, “Do you want my advice?”. And I remember not to judge or over-identify with their situation.”
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#5 One-Upping People.
“Responding to every single statement with a personal story comes across self-centered. Sometimes people do this unintentionally to try to find some common ground with someone, but it ends up cutting the conversation short. Letting people have their moment when they tell a story is a lot more likable. Practice active listening, which means responding with empathetic questions like “That’s so cool, how did you like that?”, then following up with your related experiences.”
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The Former TV Newscaster Equally Shared Some Great Advice On How To Be Likeable: 3 Great Tips.
#1 Don’t Take Yourself So Seriously.
“Being able to poke fun at yourself comes across a lot more confident and puts others at ease to be more themselves. People tend to remember you primarily according to how you make them feel. At the end of the day, people like to be around people who are fun to be around.”
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#2 Spread Gossip That’s Positive.
“Talking about someone behind their back in a positive light shows that you’re secure with yourself and you have good intentions. It increases the likelihood that people will trust you and confide in you. And also, the positive traits that you speak about someone else are subconsciously perceived by others as traits that you also possess.”
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#3 Embrace Your Imperfections As A Way Of Validating Those Of Others.
“Being transparent about a select number of vulnerabilities makes you more relatable, self-aware and encourages real human connection. It’s an indirect, diplomatic way of pointing out the faults in others without calling them out. And can be more effective in encouraging people to improve instead of calling them out.”
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