We’re living in a time period where polyamorous and open relationships are more accepted by many. A husband who agreed to an open relationship, however, finds himself feeling ‘stuck’ with the woman he’s engaged with. He wrote, “My fiancée wanted an open relationship – now I’ve fallen in love with someone else.”
“I have romantic feelings for my open relationship partner. This violates the agreement between my fiancée and I, but I’m torn on what steps to take next,” wrote the 26-year-old. He explained that his 4 years relationship with his fiancée Emma is at risk.
“She stated she didn’t care if I was physically involved with another woman as long as no feelings were involved. There weren’t supposed to be any dates, we always used protection, and if I even thought one of us had started to like one another I was to call it off immediately. We spent a few weeks agreeing on the ground rules.”
Then, he hooked up with a woman through a dating app, “Ren and I have been sleeping together for eight months now.”
However, it had instead caused his feelings to waver, “It went from a very physical relationship to a very emotionally involved one. We’ve had sex well over a few dozen times now. It just got really out of hand. Over time we’ve discovered that we have a lot in common. It just feels… different.”
“She’s completely different from Emma. She’s very verbal in what she wants and needs, she’s affectionate in every way, and she’s always complimenting me. I don’t get that from Emma. I didn’t realize how strained I felt in our relationship. Now I feel stuck.”
The man shares that he’s feeling doubtful about his relationship right now. He still doesn’t want to lose both Emma and Ren, but his feelings are divided and he’s not sure what to do.
Users were telling him to call off the engagement. He made it pretty clear that he and Emma are not doing well in a relationship. “Instead of filling the void, it made it more obvious,” one wrote.
Another reminded, “You say you don’t want to lose either, and lying is a great way to ensure that, instead of one or the other, you lose both. So take that into consideration.”